Moms, I owe you an apology


Before I had my son, I judged. I mean really judged. Laynie was a little over 2 years old, and I remember talking with another mom who was struggling, and I kept thinking to myself, “Raising Laynie has been so easy. What is she doing wrong that is making parenting so hard?”

Then I had Gideon.

I get it now.

Some kids just require MORE. They require more of your physical, mental, emotional & spiritual capacities. And sometimes it’s more than you have to give. With everything else that life throws our way, sometimes it’s just too dang much.

I’ve been extremely blessed because I have never had to deal with a lot of major parenting issues. Especially in the realm of spit-up. Yes, I consider that major. My kids just never puked -not as infants, or as toddlers. To this day, Laynie has thrown up maybe 4 times. And 3 of those 4 times she caught her own puke in a bowl. The other time, she was in her car seat and caught her puke in a Fuzzy’s cup. Talk about easy clean up.

Ever since Gideon was born, life has just been a whole lot harder in general. And today was no different. Today I had my first experience with one-year-old puke… while he was in his car seat…while I was driving. Gideon has been battling a cough and the past few days he coughs so hard that he chokes and then pukes. He’s done it the past 4 mornings (and only in the mornings) and today was no different…. except that I had somewhere to be. Because it was later in the morning, I thought we had dodged the bullet and I carelessly put him in the car, with no precautionary measures in place… And then it happened. He puked all over everything.

This process was all new to me. And the suckiest part of it all was that I was alone.

I kept driving since we were almost to Laynie’s gymnastics class and when we got there, I put his car seat in the stroller and took him in…puke and all. Once Laynie was in class, I spent the next 35 minutes trying to clean up what seemed like a gallon of strawberry/banana puree and formula. I cried on the concrete floor (the ugly kind of cry) as I used baby wipes to wash him and his car seat. (Just for the record, they don’t soak up a whole lot).

I’m quite certain I was a sight for sore eyes. Looking back, as I wallowed in my self-pity, I’m sure there were moms that passed by & judged, just as I had before. Regardless of what they may or may not have been thinking, I was sad. And I felt utterly alone.

I wish I could say I brushed it off and the rest of the day I had a positive outlook. But that’s not what happened. I tried at first. I got Gideon and his car seat cleaned. I changed his clothes, threw away his brand new puke-saturated jammies, and sulked as I watched the last 15 minutes of Laynie’s class. We met up with Mimi, went to lunch and then I took Gideon to therapy while my mom took Laynie to Hobby Lobby. Gideon’s therapist said his session went really well and just as things were beginning to look up, Satan pulled my number, again. On the drive home, Gideon once more puked all over everything.



I got to my parent’s house to pick up Laynie and went through the whole process all over again. When it was all said and done, I was driving home thinking how many moms have gone before me and felt the exact same way I did today. It’s silly that we moms should ever feel “alone” in any of this craziness called motherhood. I’m sure someone is reading this post right now who has cleaned up puke more than 10 times in one day… if that’s you, God bless you. I don’t know how you do it/did it.

There are some things about motherhood that I would trade in a heartbeat… Cleaning puke is possibly number one on my list. But regardless of what crappy things we moms endure throughout our day, our babies need us. And we need each other.

Now that I have had time to reflect on my day (praise God, my husband is home!), I can honestly say that I learned a few things from today’s puke-fest.

First, I owe every mom I’ve ever judged a HUGE apology. I’m so sorry. I never thought I would be the kind of person to judge someone else for anything, much less his or her aim at parenting. Heaven only knows why I couldn’t see my own pride. Guess we can all thank Gideon for knocking me off my “motherhood is so easy” pedestal.

The second thing I’ve learned is that I cannot do this parenting thing on my own. Not only do I need the other moms who have gone before me, but I also desperately need the guidance of the Lord.  I mentioned earlier that some kids require MORE of us. There’s absolutely no way we can raise them relying on our own resources. It’s just too difficult. We will never be patient enough, kind enough or loving enough. We will never be able to forgive enough. We must draw on Him for everything- our strength, our compassion, our wisdom… it all comes from Him. Matthew 11:28 says, Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

I don’t know about you, but today has left me weak and weary…and I need the kind of rest that can only come from Him. I need the kind of support that only comes from other moms who know what its like to clean puke with a wet-non-absorbent baby wipe!!

My prayer tonight is that you would find rest in Him as well. No matter what the day has vomited on you, please know that Jesus is all you need.



16 thoughts on “Moms, I owe you an apology


  2. OMG!! Your blog is amazing! You are amazing!! Thank you for sharing your life with me (us)! Gideon has brought me closer to God!

  3. I’m so glad I caught this blog post, Sam! I have been blessed with two precious babies as well, and they are completely opposite when it comes to their needs. Brayden was a reflux baby. Kayelynn (thank God) was easy! We still battle those occasions of vomit… In the car, in the bed, on the floor, you name it. I learned that when traveling, loading up on big towels or comfy blankets to catch it all (ewww… I know!) is really helpful when they can’t hold the bowl/cup themselves. Hugs to you, after such a tough day! I pray that sweet Gideon feels better soon!

    1. Thanks Heather! I don’t know how you moms of twins do it!! God bless you!! 🙂 Thanks for the tips!! I’ll never travel the same again! Lol. 🙂

  4. I love your blog b/c you have such a sensitive-to-God heart. Thank you for sharing even the ugly stuff (I don’t mean vomit, but pride). I am naturally critical/judgmental and I think it’s the ugliest sin there is . . . fortunately God has something to clean us up with that’s better than baby wipes 🙂 Ah, puke life lessons.

    Also I’ve learned not to give baby Tylenol (or any meds w/ dye) because it leaves indelible pink stains on our carpet. That is my worst kid-puke experience b/c it’s so lasting. At least it’s in my daughter’s bedroom!

    1. Thanks Kristi!! Pride is pretty nasty. And I didn’t even think about those dyes causing a stain! Yuck!! Oh the joys and things we learn from motherhood. Everyday is a lesson, huh? Thanks for sharing your wisdom & encouragement with me!! God bless!!

  5. Ugh. It always seems to happen in the car (where it gets into EVERY SINGLE LITTLE CREVICE of the carseat/seat/buckles) or in their bed at around 2AM. (…Because who doesn’t want to spend an hour in the middle of the night changing sheets, doing laundry, and bathing their child?!) Oh, and if you’re really lucky… it might just happen again around 4AM too… And 5AM.. (I’ve had a little bit of puke experience.) I can totally relate to crying the ‘ugly cry’ as I was trying my best to clean Kennedy and my whole car with disposable wipes on the side of the road (all while trying not to throw up myself). I am sorry that you had that kind of day. Really.
    Thank you for your honesty, and for being real. Even though we don’t know each other well, I truly believe God has called on me to be a part of your prayer warrior team. I’ll be praying tonight for rest… physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Hang in there mommy. You are doing a great job.

    1. Thank you Chelsea!! Now that you mention it, there was one time Laynie puked in her bed (maybe she was about year old) and we didn’t know it until she cried out around 4 am and by then it was dried and crusted. (Oh I felt so bad!!) Yeah, that was no fun…maybe that’s why it was blocked from my memory until just now!! LOL!
      I’m so glad you’re part of my prayer warrior team. I don’t know what I would do or how I would make it without the prayers of friends like you. Thank you so much for sharing your experience as a mom and all your wisdom. I’m so grateful to know you prayer for my family. 🙂 God bless you and yours!!

  6. Oh man did this blog bring up demons. Todd and I say all the time that our Weston was Gods lesson to us in humility lol. We thought we were the best parents to our first and that we had it ALL figured out…if only other parents could be like us they to would have the perfect child….. Big laugh because then we got Wes the Mess and that blessing was gods way of reminding us that only he knows the way

    1. Indeed He does!!! I love that you call him Wes the Mess!!! That’s cracking me up right now!!! Love you and thanks for sharing!! 🙂

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